It’s never too late

Your marriage can change

Admitting the need and then seeking help is often a difficult step towards realizing a more secure and loving marriage. Most couples wait on average between 6-7 years after identifying that there is a problem before seeking counseling. Regardless of how long you have waited before seeking professional help, it is never too late. Destructive and repetitive cycles of conflict, issues of betrayal and mistrust, questions involving one’s sense of feeling loved and the pain of loneliness can change.

The Catholic approach

Marriage counseling from a sacramental worldview

A Catholic marriage counseling approach essentially means we view the sacrament of marriage as a sacred bond intended to reflect the Trinitarian love between the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. As clinicians we take seriously the responsibility of caring for your relationship that is called to reflect this unity.  We bring empirically based methods to help you heal that which is broken and impedes the giving and receiving of love. At Novare Counseling Center, we rely heavily on the empirically based model, Emotionally Focused Therapy, which gets right to the heart of the matter.

“Marriage, the Sacrament of Matrimony, is a covenant of persons in love. And love can be deepened and preserved only by Love, that Love which is ‘poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit which has been given to us’ (Rom 5:5).”  —St John Paul II, Letter to Families for the International Year of the Family

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

A research proven treatment for distressed couples

The interactions of distressed couples are characterized by negative cycles where, for example, one partner pursues while the other withdraws. The therapist helps the couple reach for the underlying emotions that keep them stuck in those rigid positions and negative interaction cycles.  EFT focuses on the emotional bond between spouses, recognizing that most relational problems result from a disruption in this bond. By learning to be more open and honest with underlying emotions and needs, couples learn to experience a deeper unity in their relationship as God has intended.

In EFT research studies, over 70% of couples turned their relationship around (from distressed—no matter how distressed—to happy) in 15–20 sessions and over 90% of couples “significantly improved”.

EFT gives a proven road map to the process of change in couple therapy.
— John Gottman, Ph.D, "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work"
One of the few approaches to marital therapy that has been proven to be effective.
— Jay Lebow, Ph.D, President, Division of Family Psychology of the American Psychological Association

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Behold, I make all things new.
— Rev 21:5